College Girls Prefer to Be Married by Age 30

The results were part of the "Ultimate College Girl Survey“, conducted online by Her Campus Media, the parent company of HerCampus.com (an online community for college women). Nearly 2,600 college women from 677 different colleges and universities took the survey, representing the classes of 2012, 2013, 2014 and 2015 almost equally.

Of the respondents, 85.1 percent said that they'd like to be married by age 30. Specifically, 46.5 percent said they'd like to get married between age 25 and 27; 20.9 percent said they'd like to tie the knot between 28-30; and 17.1 percent want to walk down the aisle by their 25th birthdays.

"We were not surprised with the finding that college women want to be married by 30, because we've seen over and over again how important planning is to today's educated young women," Stephanie Kaplan, HerCampus Co-Founder, CEO & Editor-in-Chief, tells HealthySELF.

"Even while they're still in college, they're looking to the future and thinking about grad school, careers and creating a family, and mapping out how they want to get there and when," Kaplan adds. "Since education and career are so important to today's young women, it makes sense that so many of them identified 30 as their 'target' marriage deadline, whereas I would expect that women in generations past would have identified an earlier age."

Indeed, historian Stephanie Coontz, faculty member at The Evergreen State College, Director of Research and Public Education for the Council on Contemporary Families and author of Marriage, A History: From Obedience to Intimacy, or How Love Conquered Marriage, says that the survey results "represent a huge shift" in the mindset of young women, historically speaking.

"After all, back in 1960, half of all women were married by the time they were 20," says Coontz. The ideal was to get married sooner rather than later, she says: "If you were getting a B.A. and had the chance to get an 'MRS' degree, that was what you went for!"

Coontz says there was a serious concern that if you weren't married by the time you were 24, you might -- gasp! -- never get married. "The anxiety to get married, even if it meant not getting an education, was much so much stronger, even as recently as the mid-'60s," says Coontz.

By contrast, Coontz says 30 is a reasonable time frame in the minds of college women today, because that allows enough time for them to complete their education, make strides in a meaningful career and spend time with their spouses before their biological clocks start kicking in. "Those considerations just were not in the forefront of women's minds even 50 years ago," she says.

According to Coontz, the average age of marriage for women today is 26, but that average includes a much wider-spread range of ages than in the past. It's much more likely today, she says, that a college-educated woman could marry for the first time at 40.

So why are so many young women still dead-set on a wedding by 30? "Today's college women want it all -- and I mean that in a good way," Kaplan says. "They want the prestigious degrees, the dream job and the dream life, which for the vast majority of them includes marriage and kids."

Ah yes, back to that biological clock... when asked by Her Campus about starting a family, 76.8 percent of respondents said that they wanted to have children "at some point" in the future, while 17.2 percent said they weren't sure. About 40 percent said that they'd like to have their first child between age 28-30, while 28.1 percent said that they were open to starting a family during their 30s.

But there's never been a better time to NOT be married by 30. Not only are more women having kids well into their 30s and beyond, being a single woman is just plain fun. Plus, Coontz says, if women do postpone marriage to get an education, they are as likely to marry as any other group of women, more likely to marry than less educated women and much more likely to stay married than any other group of women.

"I really don't think there's much cultural stigma about being unmarried after 30, or even after 40, ESPECIALLY for women, oddly enough," she says. "Back in the 1950s and early 1960s, women often 'settled' for someone they didn't really love because they were so afraid of missing the 'deadline.' Very few women do that nowadays."

Adopted from Self.com

Why are you in a Relationship if you are not having Sex?

Dr. Neill Neill, a psychologist and author, presents that “relationships are about learning, growth and connection, beginning with our first relationships with our parents. We did huge amounts of learning during those growing up years. Besides the physical stuff we learned language so we could communicate our needs and then begin to understand the needs of others. We learned the rudiments of love and connection. All of this was essential to our being able to connect successfully with others as adults. We are hardwired to seek connection with others and hardwired to seek intimacy…

The first problem is, we are ready for sexual intimacy long before our brains are mature enough to handle true intimacy and connection. The second problem is in part cultural. Twenty-somethings who enter into a long-term commitment often assume that since they are adults, they won’t change. They don’t understand that personal change and growth will continue throughout life. And many a relationship has ended because at least one has changed.

However, this seemingly universal problem has a silver lining. When both grasp the fact that personal change comes with the territory of a long-term relationship, they can learn to go with the flow. They can support one another in their growth and transformation.”

In Christianity, God gives three mandates for Christian marriage: to reflect, reign, and reproduce.

According to the Quran, most forms of sexual contact within a marriage are allowed. Sex is considered a pleasurable, even spiritual activity, and a duty. At least one hadith explicitly states that for a married couple to have sex is a good deed rewarded by God. Another hadith suggests that a man should not leave the proverbial bed until the woman is satisfied, a reference many say points to orgasm. Adultery warrants severe punishment. Pre-marital sex is also considered sinful, albeit less severe. All shari'a laws regulating sexual conduct apply to both men and women equally.

The Baha'i understanding of sex is that chastity should be practiced by both sexes before marriage because it is commendable ethically and that it leads to a happy and successful marital life. The Bahá'í Faith recognizes the value of the sex impulse, but that its proper use is within the institution of marriage; Baha'is do not believe in the suppression of the sex impulse but in its regulation and control

The most common formulation of Buddhist ethics are the Five Precepts and the Noble Eightfold Path, which say that one should neither be attached to nor crave sensual pleasure. These precepts take the form of voluntary, personal undertakings, not divine mandate or instruction. Of the Five Precepts, Brahmacharya vow is to refrain from sex outside marriage

In Hinduism, sexual variance was seen as a creative expression and was not expressly discouraged. It was in many cases encouraged as part of a human soul's need to experience/comprehend the multifariousness that the world has to offer. However, celibacy, sexual regulation and sexual abstinence (apart from regulation of other worldly desires) was recommended for those who would prefer a faster, less complicated and a proven path to liberation. Note that any act of sex between consenting adults is not inherently sinful: being attached to sex might merely delay your 'liberation'; in that sense sex is as much impedance as amassing wealth, anger, attachment to one's kin or any other worldly pursuits, including intellectual pursuits.

Neopagan beliefs, have the theme of fertility as central to their practices, and as such encourage what they view as a healthy sex life, consensual sex between adults, regardless of gender or age.

In Satanism, Sex is viewed as an indulgence, but one that should only be freely entered into with consent.

So, since almost all beliefs recognize and respect sex, what are you doing in a relationship if you are not having sex?

Do Women Love Rough Sex?

Is it true that women love rough sex and want their men to be in control during sex?

According to a survey carried out in South Africa in 2012, 54% of the women who participated in the survey said they loved it rough, they also wanted to be dominated during sex as long as their partners (men in this case) made them feel good in the whole exercise. They said that they felt turned on more when their men did everything to satisfy them. Selfish men who played rough for their own pleasure were a huge turn off as the women felt used.

The same survey revealed that women love to have sex in the night before sleeping, 55% said they prefer to have sex 3 times a week. His arms followed by his shoulders and butt 32% turned her on.

76% percent of the women said that emotional connection was number one in their list of how to be pleased followed by oral sex at 62%. 32% said they tried anal sex at least once and 12% enjoyed it.

Sexually satisfied Women are better managers..!

Good Sex and Good Mood

In an Arizona State University study on 58 middle-aged women, physical affection or sexual behavior with a partner significantly predicted lower negative mood and stress, and higher positive mood the following day. Simply put, researchers found that sex and physical intimacy led women to feel less stressed and be in a better mood the next day. These results weren’t found when women had orgasms without a partner. This would translate to better productivity at the work place

Good Mood and Good Sex

The same study found that being in a good mood predicted more physical affection and sexual activity with a partner the next day, showing that the sex-stress management connection works both ways: sex can lead you to feel less stressed, and being less stressed or better mood can lead to more sex. Further proof of the importance of effective stress management!

Sex and Blood Pressure

Another study examined participants’ blood pressure as a measure of their stress responses during public speaking or challenging math problems—situations that often elicit stress. It was found that those who had recently had intercourse tended to have either lower baseline blood pressures, less of a blood pressure rise during stressful events, or both. These findings suggest that having sex can lead to less of a stress response during challenging situations, which is a good thing.

Sex and Stress Response

Along those lines, another study looked at women’s heart rate and cortisol levels as a measure of stress response, and found that women exhibited less of a stress response after ‘positive physical contact’ with a partner. Emotional support alone didn’t have the same effect.

Orgasm and Health

Orgasm itself has many benefits for health and stress relief. Aside from these scientific findings, sex has some obvious stress management components. In addition to effectively taking your mind off of your worries for a decent period of time, sex provides some of these other stress management benefits.

Know your Woman....

When a GIRL is quiet,
Millions of things are running in her mind
When a GIRL is not arguing,
She is thinking deeply
When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions,
She is wondering how long you will be around
When a GIRL answers "i'm fine" after a few seconds,
She is not at all fine
When a GIRL stares at you,
She is wondering why you are lying
When a GIRL lays on your chest,
She is wishing for you to be hers forever
When a GIRL calls you everyday,
She is seeking for your attention
When a GIRL sms's u everyday,
She wants you to reply at least once
When a GIRL says I love you,
She means it
When a GIRL says that she can't live without you,
She has made up her mind that you are her future
When a GIRL says "i miss you",
No one in this world can miss you more than that.

Sex Worker Dies After Having Sex with Monkey...

Cynthia, a sex worker in Lusaka Zambia was picked for the night by a gentleman in a top of the range car. The guy looked “fly” and they went to have fun. On reaching his apartment, she was offered $2000 to have sex with her suitor’s monkey; the instruction was to engage in oral, anal and vaginal sex. At first she did not want to do it, but on a second thought and after the gentleman agreed to increase the pay by $500, she agree to do it: after all it’s just a matter of 5 to 10 minutes job, so she thought.

She was dropped to her place after a job well done and paid handsomely. She developed complications later, was admitted to the local hospital with complications in the abdomen. She died two days later. 

40-Year Old Woman to Marry Son 23 in Zimbabwe..

Adapted from Zimbabwe Mail

A 40-year-old Zimbabwean woman and mother is set to marry her own son and the pair claim to be very much in love with each other. And now they want to take their relationship to the next level and get married considering that the mother, Betty Mbereko (from Mwenezi in Masvingo) is now six months pregnant and expecting her son’s child and her grandchild.

Mbereko, 40, has been a widow for the past 12 years and has been living with her 23-years-old son Farai Mbereko.

She confirms that she is six month pregnant and that she has decided it is better to “marry” her son because she does not want to marry her late husband’s young brothers, whom she says are coveting her.

Betty stunned a village court last week when she said the affair with her son had begun three years earlier.

She said after spending a lot of money sending Farai to school following the death of her husband, she felt she had a right to his money and no other woman was entitled to it.

 “Look, I strove alone to send my son to school and no one helped me. Now you see that my son is working and you accuse me of doing something wrong.

 “Let me enjoy the products of my sweat,” she told the village court council.

 Farai said he was more than prepared to marry his mother and would pay off the ilobola balance his father had left unpaid to his grandparents.

 “I know my father died before he finished paying the bride price and I am prepared to pay it off,” he said. “It is better to publicise what is happening because people should know that I am the one who made my mother pregnant.

Otherwise they will accuse her of promiscuity.” But local headman Nathan Muputirwa says: “We cannot allow this to happen in our village, mashura chaiwo aya, (This is a bad omen indeed). In the past they would have to be killed but today we cannot do it because we are afraid of the police.”

He warned them to immediately break off their marriage or leave his village. They chose the latter and have since left the village for an undisclosed destination.

Zimbawe Mail